Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction

Title: Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction.

Author: Catherine Pearlman

Published: August 8th, 2017

Pages: 256

Genre: Parenting, Nonfiction, Self Help

Publisher: Tarcherperigee

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Wreath(13)-BlackGoodreads Description: 

This book teaches frustrated, stressed-out parents that selectively ignoring certain behaviors can actually inspire positive changes in their kids.
With all the whining, complaining, begging, and negotiating, parenting can seem more like a chore than a pleasure. Dr. Catherine Pearlman, syndicated columnist and one of America’s leading parenting experts, has a simple yet revolutionary solution: Ignore It!
Dr. Pearlman’s four-step process returns the joy to child rearing. Combining highly effective strategies with time-tested approaches, she teaches parents when to selectively look the other way to withdraw reinforcement for undesirable behaviors. Too often we find ourselves bargaining, debating, arguing and pleading with kids. Instead of improved behavior parents are ensuring that the behavior will not only continue but often get worse. When children receive no attention or reward for misbehavior, they realize their ways of acting are ineffective and cease doing it. Using proven strategies supported by research, this book shows parents how to:
– Avoid engaging in a power struggle
– Stop using attention as a reward for misbehavior
– Use effective behavior modification techniques to diminish and often eliminate problem behaviors
Overflowing with wisdom, tips, scenarios, frequently asked questions, and a lot of encouragement, Ignore It! is the parenting program that promises to return bliss to the lives of exasperated parents.Wreath(13)-Black

Things I enjoyed about this book: 

I truly enjoy when someone, in this case Catherine, gives me the go-ahead to “ignore” my children’s behavior. Re-read that and reminder I said ignore the behavior not ignore my children. I thought this book had some great points and reminders that we don’t need to over parent our children. Sometimes the best solution is to ignore them.

The Things I Didn’t Enjoy: 

Like most parenting books, this one contained a lot of fluff and because I was listening to it, I couldn’t just skip through the monotonous scenarios. The entire book could have been condensed into 4 chapters.



Catherine Pearlman deserves 3 out of 5 bird feathers for her book Ignore it. We live in a society where children are over parented and we feel as if we need to because most parenting books tell us we need to. This is why I did enjoy this one, it’s okay to ignore some of our children’s behavior. One of my biggest downfalls as a parent is that I talk too much. If I could say less and do this more often I would avoid a lot of uanessacry battles. I’d recommend this as a quick listen or read through. It had some great pointers and refreshers!

Parent’s Guide:

This is a literal parent’s guide, you’ll be fine.


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